Rooby Whishes

Rooby Whishes

Sunday, 29 April 2012

but he wont do the dishes.........



This is a long-un!!!!
I had the pleasure of doing a workshop with the amazing Marianne Williamson, and it was just so enlightening, well, kinda for me, because I have already been practising a lot of what she said. So the workshop was on relationships, intimate relationships, and what she said made me laugh so much, well ok not laugh, but smile throughout the whole workshop.
So I shall write from a woman's perspective, because I really cannot write from a mans, as they really are from Mars, and I cant talk that lingo, but I so get it!!!!
Every woman I know, yes every woman I know moans about her man, he wont do the dishes, he really doesn't understand me, he doesn't cherish me, he doesn't respect me.....I could go on and on. I used to be one of those women....not anymore.
My change with Mem, was more to do with my own journey. I really had to let go of the ‘small stuff’, and come from a place of love. It was me or nothing. I was in such a bad place, that existing meant concentrating on only me. And whether he honoured that or not was a choice I had to make. Whether the relationship would last, was a risk I had to take. Bless him, he has honoured me, and let me be. I learnt so much by doing The Alchemy of Voice with Stewart Pearce. I leant to live in my true hearts note. I leant Ho O Pono Pono, to forgive ( you can read about the Ho O Pono Pono here) http://roobywhishes.blogspot.co.uk/2012/01/ho-o-pono-pono-changed-my-life.htmlhttp://roobywhishes.blogspot.co.uk/2012/03/warningyou-may-fall-in-love-with.html.  I had to look at Mem is a completely different way. I had to let go, and at first, and this is so true, it felt like I didn't care about him, because I wasn't telling him want to do....seriously....such a strange feeling. But it was just the transition. 
So back to Marianne. She is so ‘natural’, and you feel like you have known her for years. She has amazing insight into relationships. And here are some of the insights she shared. And yes this all came from a woman!!!
Let him be. Who are you to judge him? Do you really know what getting it right looks like?? MW
When you met him, you loved him enough to want to stay, why are you trying to change him, and in all these years has he changed? So we all go into ‘nagging’ mode. When we nag him, we remind him of his mother, and no man...excuse the crudeness, will get an erection for his mother, because he doesn't find his Mother sexy!!!!!! He fell in love with us, when we were free of all this stuff!!!
Never ask a man for more, better, different, love, sex or affection. Dr Pat Allen
You don't have nagging rights, you have leaving rights. 
He really isn't there to be who you want him to be, and what is the problem in you, that makes him not doing the dishes such a big deal. MW
And isn't that just it. because we are not happy within ourselves, we make all this stuff such a big deal. 
Ok so some of you may be incensed with what I am writing, so you need to ask yourselves why...........so please do not read on, because it gets more intense!!!!!!!
We must become individual beacons of love. MW
What is it in you, that is causing the hurt?
Learn to love yourself, and what he does just will not matter anymore. And if what he is doing is just so bad, then you can leave.
So  where do you start, and this is where Marianne’s knowledge came in.
Men need to have their thought respected, women need to have their feelings cherished. You cannot coddle his feelings, you need to coddle his thoughts, and he needs to coddle your feelings. MW
So we need to go back to the Goddesses that we are. This whole relationship thing is like a dance. Nature does it, so why won’t we? Women have been told to be more masculine, and men more feminine...sorry but it just isn’tt working. Now Im not asking you to be trodden on, and be in a relationship where you are abused or controlled. 
I’m asking you to fall in love with yourself again.
Take time to meditate. We shower/bather our bodies every day. We need to cleanse our minds everyday. So this can be through some kind of mantra, and prayer. Find a way to clear all that mental clutter.
Even if he doesn't meditate and you do, the effects will ripple through the Universe. I had some pretty draining friends, who have thankfully moved out of my life. Mem doesn't meditate, yet the effect has passed to him. His draining friends have been put to one side, and he is so much happier now
Prayer is also so powerful. No this is nothing to do with being religious, its to do with belief in Divine, God. Ask God to help you.
Try this
Dear God
Please work a miracle to dissolve the wall between us. Please send your Spirit so that we may live in our Divine partnership, So be it. Amen/Amin.MW
Whatever needs I have will be filled by me.MW
I take out ‘Goddess’ moments, where I light scented candles, meditate, take long luxurious baths, craft, have days out. Ok a lot of you are shouting, yes but you don't have kids. Ok I don't but I run a home, and a business, so life is pretty full. And can he not just take care of the kids for just 30 minutes each day so that you can have Goddess time? Most women work, so take time out when you come home, to cherish your self. And leave all that work stuff until the next day. Believe me, when he sees the change in you, he will offer to give you time out.
Embrace the feminine in you, don't expect it from him. You have the Divine Feminine Love energy in you. Remember it, and use it!!!!

And imagine that you are not just desirable to him, that your are desirable to everyone. SInce I have been on this journey, nearly everyone is so nice to me, from their heart. I have been shown acts of kindness, that I could not possibly have imagined. And when I give out Love, there seems to be a constant supply, it just never diminishes. Love is a treasure we all possess..use it, openly. Yes there was an occasion, recently, when I put up a post about Ho O Pono Pono on a group on FB, and the backlash was so hurtful. People were making such cruel comments, about not having enough money to do the course, so therefore I was being insensitive. It really hurt, because I was just trying to share my journey. I took time out to meditate on it, and realised that these people were so stuck, and so angry, that any outlet was good And I was that outlet. So I sent love, and forgave them. I can handle the anger, because I dissolve it with love. Simple as that
And paaaleeeese Stop beating yourself up about your body, hair, clothes. Your ego is just so ready to convince you of your ‘ugliness’, because this is a way of moving you away from loving yourself, from the light. Embrace your beauty, because you are just so beautiful. And it is a simple as that. Women are bombarded with ‘the perfect woman’ image all the time through the media....stop trying to be that woman....fall in love with yourself, and be irresistible!!!!! How can he love us if we are always moaning about the size of our butt!!!!
I am willing not to be that way, it is just a habit. MW
And remember, your are exercising a ‘new muscle’ so don't expect changes immediately.
I have been at it for about a year. Mem just does not get nagged anymore. Yes I am still learning so there are moments when I slip, but I know I am doing it, so I check myself. And guess what....he is more loving, more attentive, mentally, and physically, and even washes the dishes without out being asked. Yes he only does it occasionally, but it makes me so happy inside, that I didn't have to nag him, for him to do it. He is more loving towards his own Family, giving out more hugs than I have ever known him too!!!! AND, We dont argue anymore either.
A few weeks ago he rang me to say he was going out for a drink with friends after work. I asked him if he wanted to eat when he came home, and he said yes, and that he would be home by 8. So I cooked him a lovely meal. 8 o’clock came.....9 o’clock came so I called him and he said he was leaving the pub.....10‘o’ clock came....he came home a 10.30pm. Now normally I would have been fuming........drama queen, screaming, and crying, about how he has no respect, but I didn't say a thing. He was merry, and yes I was angry, but I had to wait till he was sober, and I was calmer!!!!!. So the next evening, when he came home from worked, I calmly told him that what he had done was hurtful. I didn't say...”this is how I feel”, I told him that I though that what he had done was disrespectful, and that next time it would be more considerate if he told me that he was going to be late”. And he listened, and apologised, and we ate the previous nights left overs. I know what had happened. He had gone out, was enjoying himself, and just got caught up in the whole moment...big deal?....of course not. Anyway, this week, he called to say that he was going out, and not to cook for him, so I cooked myself a light meal, and he came home at 9, absolutely starving, so had toast!!!!!! If I had done the whole nagging on the first occasion, he would have dome the same thing again...guaranteed!!!! And ,Yes he is messy, and still leaves his dirty clothes by the bed every night, yes he is still loud, and stuck in his ways, but, really, I can cope!!!!! He now shows me moments of pure unselfishness, and the feeling is just beautiful, like my nervous system is being massaged, an inner glee, which is just an amazing feeling.
Men really are very simple creatures (sorry to any men who are reading this, but you really are), and we truly can open them to Love. And Men, watch out,there will be some adorable Goddesses around, so step up.......If I can do it with Hubby, so can you
You both came together through love, and you both came together for a reason. Be free with your love. Dont hold it back, release it, and watch when it comes back to you. You will be lifted beyond belief, and you will shine, shine, shine



Enjoy the Dance Of Intimate Love
Namaste
Goddess Rubina xxx
Oh and just a quickie card I made for my nephew during Goddess time!!!!!!



Friday, 27 April 2012

She’s on a roll



Another journaled page, yes in such a great mood today..









So DH is out tonight for his leaving drink, so tonight I shall bathe, and eat, and chillax on the sofa with my newest purchase, a DVD on the life of Frida Kahlo, the Goddess of Art Journalling. And a couple of books to relax with. 





Love and Light

Thursday, 26 April 2012

Strange Mood Woman



Gosh, I have been in such a strange mood today. Woke up, completely fed up, with my skin, dreading the thought of doing mountains of paperwork, just feeling sorry for myself :-(
And I know what it is, which is different to how things used to be. I know its my ‘monthlys’ , and because I take EPO, I really dont get PMS anymore, just an odd mood for a couple of days...yes the raving banshee has disappeared. So I just had to get on with things. I procrastinated about the paperwork for about 2 hours, finding every excuse not to get on with it. I thought it best to go out, in the wind, to clear my head. DH had requested that I get him some Organic White Tea, yes, shock, horror. He likes proper builders tea, even thought he isnt a builder, you know, tea so strong you can stand a spoon in it. Some of his office colleagues have been drinking White Tea, and he likes it. If it was my suggestion, he would have poo pooed it!!!! 
So off I went daan to Sainsburys, with me wellies on, and ended up in the Pound store next door ( yes I got his tea first!!). Picked up some bits a bobs for my crafting, and was so inspired to do my first bit of propa journalling. I so want to keep a visual diary, and today was the day. So I came home  with renewed vigor, and smashed through the paper work, which really wasn't that much. Its amazing how we fool ourselves when we are in a poo bum (nicked from my God Daughter) mood...it took 1 hour to do!!!!!!
I thought about my skin, and this is what came through. For those of you who dont know, I have Psoriasis. I caught Chicken Pox 4 years ago, and it was triggered. I tried medication, and UV treatment, but nothing worked. So I treat it in a natural way. I use organic oils, and have lessened the amount of stress, well the stress hasn't lessened, I just dont dwell on it anymore. And it is so much better.

I love the textures on the pages. Rubber rings, and a cleaning cloth...came to good use. Oh and someone recommended Stewart Gill paints http://www.stewartgill.com/sg-paints-14-c.asp. They are lush, so creamy, and rich. And I am left handed, hence why all the writing it tilted!!!!










I also found a wonderful flower tutorial on youtube, and made the flower from tumble dryer sheets. I dont have a tumble dryer..hate them, so I rinsed them out, dried them, sprayed with glimmer mist, cut into rough circles , and added glitter. I then used a snowflake punch for the middle and da daaaaaa, a vewy pwetty flaaar......yes thats how we say flower in the sauf of town.



So now I have eaten a meal of turkey meatloaf, made with cajun seasoning, and crushed new potatoes, and sweetcorn, and a nice cuppa chai, I am in a very content mood...see I just needed to be pushed about by the Wind....Nature is a glorious medicine
Namaste Beloved Ones

She Boots



Just a quickie....aren’t these gorg?...........I want!!! I shall now get back to huuuuuge pile of paperwork......just not fair....umph!!





Tuesday, 24 April 2012

She’s in such a crafty mood




Yes...me....crafty-licious at the mo...just can’t get enough of it. I have been at it for about a week...constantly.......Any body want to buy a salon????
Anyway......some shock news...I came 4th in this round of Come Dine with Me LOL. I must admit, even I wasn’t happy with what I dished up, but I was really stressed because it was the day I got told I had high blood pressure. And I really believe that when you stress, it will show in your food. So thats my excuse!!!!  The lovely Farhat won, and deservedly so...her food was amazing. We all had a very nice evening, and I fell I love with her dog, Chrissy, a staf, and Chrissy feel in love with me....so friendly, and kept wanting to hug up to me...awaaaaaa. We are going to use the money to have a lovely girlie weekend away, thank you so much Farhat for the kind donation...she got her hand on it momentarily!!!

Fab picture by Shireen


And they have noticed that I am so much calmer, and less stressed that I used to be. And these ladies have known me a long, long time. It is always scary, when you change, as you will lose friends, no doubt about it. But not good, true friends. They are the ones who will stand by your side, and embrace the changes., and really want to know how you did it. I feel very lucky to have them in my life.
The craft room got a good sorting out this week. I got a new shelf for my paints and inks. I love being able to see all the colours in front of me..so inspiring. And I found some gorgeous indian fabric printing blocks. I’m going to have a play in my Art Journal, and will put up pictures.
 A lady called Tania, on a group on FB,  directed me to a site where they sell empty dvd cases. She was using them to stock her stamps...what a fab idea, so I got really organised!!!
And I covered a couple of notebooks I had lying around. Im really pleased with them. Thinking about starting up an etsy shop, so will keep you posted


Messy!!!!


























Awaaaaaaaaaa I want to spend the rest of my life crafting. It is soooooooooo nice, and relaxing...and liberating, and.....ok I will shut up now.
Fanks for popping in.
(I’m so glad my Mother doesn't read my blogs..I would sooooo get told off for “fanks”!!!!!)
Namaste

Saturday, 21 April 2012

Polaroid Photo

Hey all


As a lot of people are into Smash type books, I just wanted to share this picture with you, pictures would look fab in these....download, and use, with love








and here is a fab site for free fonts


http://www.fontspace.com/popular/fonts?p=33


Rooby


xx

Thursday, 19 April 2012

Happy Bunny




I am such a happy bunny at the moment...yes even more so than usual. I have had a wonderful 2 days. Gifts from friends, a blog award and then a very different experience today..so I am ultra, uber, smiley.
So on to today. I have this mantra at the moment.......Try Something New Each Day!! So Life is just so full of excitement for me right now. It doesn't have to cost anything, just try ,maybe a  different response to someone, or drive down a road you haven't driven down before....silly but different.
And today I went for a Sushi class, via Groupon. I have subscribed to emails from lots of different ‘dirt cheap deals’ sites, and so far have tried a sewing class, and today, this Sushi class. The sewing class was great, but I think the woman running it had just had enough of Groupon, so when I tried asking her about advance class she just didn't promote herself which was such a shame. Even the other people on the course said they would have gone back for more classes but she just wasn't interested in us!!!!
Today was so much fun. Yes I can eat Sushi, like I can eat chocolate..I adores it. But it is expensive, so why not learn eh?
The class was held in a restaurant in Richmond, and lasted for 2 hours. Richard, our teacher was so patient, and it was almost meditative the way he cut the raw fish, and presented the food. We learned about Sushi, Sashimi, Nigiri, and Maki. Its not about wolfing it down, its all about appreciating the flavours, and how you don't put the pickled ginger with the raw fish, only wasabi, and how to cleanse your palette in between eating the different courses with mooli (asian radish)...fascinating. And we rolled, and listened, and of course ate!!! Wonderful.
Although I put my big fat foot in it by asking Richard what his Japanese name was, as he was oriental, but of course he wasn't Japanese, he was chinese, and Richard was his real name!!!!!
And when I got home, I had to finish my first ever Scrap Layouts. I offered to do it as a gift for one of my students, to scrap her wedding picture, and her 50th anniversary picture. Boy.....I was so nervous. It is so hard to work like this for me. You really have to get into the ‘taste’ of the person. I couldn’t do anything really modern, or really colourful, of really ‘out there’. Anyway Im happy and DH likes them, and he would tell me if they were poop.
Enjoy the pictures





Don't be greedy and put in too much rice!!!


Nope not me..Richard made this.....



And this



First Layout da da daaaaa






My Fabby Friend Kirsty sent me this...so talented


Much love
Im off for more adventures..oh wait...Im off to bed!!!!
Rooby xxxx

Wednesday, 18 April 2012

Liebster Award for my blog...sniff sniff





Thank you so much Nicola for this......I am chuffed, and teary.....here is Nicolas wonderful blog http://floydypops.blogspot.co.uk/2012/04/flattered.html






Apparently Liebster I have now found out is a German word meaning beloved or dearest, so I am really  flattered to have been awarded it.

The honour of accepting the award is traditionally done in the following way:

1. show thanks to the blogger who awarded you by linking back to their blog

2. choose 5 blogs with less than 200 followers and let them know about your nomination by leaving a comment on their blog

3. post the award on your blog!

So here are the names of  blogs that I LOVE to visit, I hope you will enjoy visiting them too, 
and maybe even become a follower, if like me you like what you see!






Monday, 16 April 2012

Goooaaaaaal!!!


Had to hide in craft room while the Meminator (DH) watches the Verminator (Thomas Vermaelen) play football...honestly it’s a good thing Gizzi and I have strong hearts......cos when DH shouts on a goal score the whole house shakes....I sadly stayed seated, although contents of my dinner plate nearly ended up on the floor, and poor Gizzi, who was nicely snuggled on the foot stool, ended up bolting into the garden again!!!!
So I am going to blog....well obvs Roobs!!!!
Erm......where to start...oh yeah..Dinner with the In Laws on Monday...my SIL cooks a mean roast, although I have completely gone off red meat, the chicken was yummy. And loads of laughs with the mad ones!!!!
Then on Tuesday my darling Diana came to Sauf London to spend the day with me....I loves Di..truly......an easy going, genuinely enlightened soul. I remember how we met. It was about 6 years ago when DH was working at HSBC in Canary Wharf. I met him on a Friday night for a drink, with his office mateys. I was soooooooo bored (this was when I used to be sooo moody,and brattish!!!). They were all talking work...yaaaaawn....so Mem comes over and asks me to meet his friends girlfriend who was also an ‘outsider’. He got one of my indian looks because I really didn't want to meet anyone!!!! Anyways I walked over to a small group, and there was Diana, and her hubby Tony, and their friend Wayne. And D and I just hit it off......so, so weird. And we have been so close ever since. We dont get to see each other a lot, but it really doesn't matter. I just adore her. So we ate and talked, and she introduced me to more apps on my iphone hehe.....just wonderful.
And on Saturday, a dinner at ours with some more lovely friends. Steph, Bob, Nick, and Andy....the Kalkanites...because we all met in Kalkan 4 years ago. Again, I didn't want to talk to no one on holiday, and I did, and we have all been great friends since. Steph and I used to laugh because we are an odd mix, but we all get on so well. So on the menu was
Starter Tomato, Lentil, and Mint Soup
Main Salmon, Ginger, and Parsley Fishcakes served with Wasbi Mayo, sweet potato chips (oven roasted), and pan fried mushrooms, and courgettes
Desert White Chocolate mousse with mixed berries

Sadly Nick was really wasn't well, so he couldn't eat, but it meant so much to me that he still came. So we got him comfy on the sofa, with loads of water, because he thought it may be a kidney stone, and we ate. Then we chilled in the front room with him, and he was so much better by the time they left...bless him
And in case there wasn't enough chocolate, I served, with tea of coffee, Chocolate, Pistachio, and Almond bark, sprinkled with sea salt. I got this recipe from a girl I meet on a course recently.....the sea salt just makes such a difference. It was a lovely, relaxed evening.




And on Sunday, major chillage time. Mem has a history of kidney stones, and was really unwell on Wednesday. Luckily he didn't end up in hospital, and is keeping it all under control with anti biotics, and pain killers. So he rested and I created. Im getting more and more free with my creations, and more confident. I am not worrying about what anybody thinks, espech in my art journals, because that is my personal stuff...so I inked, and painted, and stamped, and enjoyed....liberation time.




Oh and how can I forget....My darling Seher gave birth to a beautiful baba called Jonas. I just cannot wait to meet him tomorrow, and cuddle him, and sniff him...love baby smells. And take Seher Chocolate Bark...she will enjoy, and may even share!!!!!

And I got more storage for my Craft room, and just stuffed it all in...I will pretty it up soon...solid oak for £95....bargain buckets


Oh and I redesigned my blog page...let me know what you think.
I think footie is nearly over, so I shall head back downstairs........
Love and Light
Always
Da Roobinator....na I think I prefer Roobs xxxx

Sunday, 15 April 2012

I offer you peace





I am just loving the new Karl Jenkins album , Peacemakers, and this is my fav track








Enjoy

Love and Peace Out

Sunday, 8 April 2012

Love this......do it anyway!!!

People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
   If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and 
some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never 
between you and them anyway.
Written on the wall in Mother Teresa's home for children in Calcutta~ ♥ ~ Noetic Alchemy